For some couples, sex is the most natural, effortless thing in the world. For others, it is a source of great frustration that has a detrimental effect on other aspects of their relationship. Even the most sexually compatible couples go through periods of stress, miscommunication, and hardship that can impact their intimacy.
When these challenges arise, it is important to investigate the cause. Usually, couples find a perfectly understandable reason why their bedroom activities have hit a rough patch. Other times, the issues are more complex. Here are some natural ways to fix things between the sheets.
 

“Even the most sexually-compatible

couples go through periods of stress,

miscommunication, and hardship that

can impact their intimacy.”

Focus on Intimacy Over Sexuality

More often than not, sex life suffers because of problems outside the bedroom. Challenges in daily communication translate to resentment and misalignment at bedtime. You can help counteract this by shifting the focus from sex to intimacy and reconnecting with your partner.
Take time to lay in bed and talk. Leave your phones in the other room and focus on each other. Start by making this a daily routine before bedtime, starting with as little as five minutes and increasing the time every few weeks. Incorporate skin-on-skin time and literally stay in touch. As your focus begins to shift, reintroduce sexual activity into the routine. Don’t be surprised if it starts to reappear naturally as your connection grows.
 

Consider Getting Help

For women, sometimes hormonal or physiological issues can make sexual intercourse uncomfortable or undesirable. At that point, it is time to look at what might be causing this issue and how to correct it. This is especially important if the woman has recently become pregnant, given birth, breastfed, or is approaching menopause.
Talk to a naturopath about different dietary and lifestyle changes you can make to improve your libido. Blood work can identify vitamin and micronutrient deficiencies that could be impacting your overall wellness. These are often easily corrected with supplements or a diet change. There is also a nonsurgical procedure you can have done to help improve your experience.
Sometimes the issue extends beyond the realm of physical health and into the challenging world of mental health. If you or your partner are having intimacy issues, consider connecting with a counselor to help identify and communicate what those problems may be.
 

“The most important aspect of 

sexual health: communication.

Without it, you and your partner will not

be able to share your needs and desires

with each other.”

Exercise

Not only is sex a form of cardiovascular exercise, your performance and libido can be enhanced by exercising outside of the bedroom. Exercise releases mood-boosting chemicals called endorphins. Endorphins are linked to a reported decrease in depression and anxiety issues, as well as generally making people happier.
Exercise can also increase the output of your sex hormones, testosterone and estrogen, which subsequently increases your libido. Many couples find that following an exercise regimen and seeing positive physical changes renews their sense of confidence and self-esteem. This makes the idea of getting naked much more appealing.
One thing to be aware of when increasing your exercise levels as an attempt to improve your sex life is not to wear yourself out. Overtraining can cause burn-out and injury that can kill the mood as you recover. Alternatively, doing an intense training session in the evening might tire you out too much to perform.
 
 

Making it Work

While there are many different steps you can take toward improving your sex life without resorting to medication, you must remember the most important aspect of sexual health: communication. Without it, you and your partner will not be able to share your needs and desires with each other. You will also be unable to discuss your problems, leaving room for speculation and despair.

Speak candidly with one another, and remember to practice active listening. With adequate communication, you will be able to develop your intimacy, make an action plan, and improve your sex life on your terms.
 
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